Hello and welcome to the second of my new regular Monday blog spots. If you are a follower of my blogging friend Toni, a.k.a This Mama Blogs, you may have seen that I wrote a guest post for her blog a while back. This, of course, I would recommend reading. The title of the post was ‘staying grateful in a busy world’. It reflected a personal journey of my own, very relevant to what I have to say today. However, once you understand and, hopefully, experience how gratitude can support happy living, you find it doesn’t stop there, does it?

For the most part, I tend to think of myself as a positive & thankful person, but, of course, it slips. Just because you accept and practise the work to do in staying grateful doesn’t mean that you’ve mastered it. There are times when it is easier to just complain rather than look on the bright side. That’s where I found myself this week, right smack bang in the middle of needing a reminder.

How it was

I have been finding myself feeling frustrated. During a busy week of feeling a bit under the weather, hot and bothered, and perturbed at some personal bits and bobs, Friday gave me the little back to reality boot in the butt that I needed.

The week was another busy one. With videos to plan and film, blog posts to create and schedule, an overnight trip away was scheduled in for the end of the week. As each day emerged from the darkness, I found myself without enthusiasm, fed up and irritated at how nothing is ever easy.

Thursday came with bags packed for a whistle-stop trip to Birmingham. A new place to see and lots of new people to meet. All, however, under sad circumstances. We were there for a funeral. Not a funeral for someone I knew well but even now, the tears pool at the thought of the grief of those close. However, in the celebration of life that followed, there were smiles and laughter at memories of the good times. As I watched and listened, that creeping reminder cloaked me. I felt disappointed with myself at my first world frustrations.

The crux is that nobody is perfect and we all fall back into old habits from time-to-time. It must just be human nature to want to complain and focus on the things we don’t like. Everybody seems to do it to some extent. The odd thing is, when others present such a mindset, I automatically try to help them find the bright side. I have witnessed others trying similar, so why is it so hard to do for ourselves?

Happiness is... loving the little things - Sunshine


And so, as I soaked up the atmosphere of reflection and nostalgia, a renewed sense-of-self returned. Not just to stay grateful but also to make more of life as we know it. No more dismissing special occasions as commercialised nonsense. Big or small, these events are there to celebrate with the people you love, doing the things you love to do.

There are specific ways to help to stay grateful, which is where my post on Toni’s blog may come in handy. Simple techniques incorporated into daily life can really make the difference. However, they must be continued to stay present. Otherwise, as with my situation this week, they can fade behind the noise of those embedded habits, long established as we grew from children.

It shouldn’t come to down to these sombre occasions to reignite that spark, but this is life and that’s the way it goes. The sadness of a loss serves to reinforce the commitment to living happy, to rise above the frustrations and unhappiness, and to focus on the good in life. None of us knows how long we have left, nor what really awaits us. As a result, we must make the most of what we have.

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  1. Thanks for writing this. I have been having a stressful week myself this week and I’ve let myself fall into the trap of thinking that life can be a real struggle at times. It’s good to focus on what you have and what you’re grateful for and this post has reminded me of that! Thank-you.

  2. This was such a great post and I love the message here. I think it’s really important to try and be thankful for what we have and look for the positives in every situation where possible. Even when it’s tough and life doesn’t look so positive at first x


  3. Such a great read! I have been struggling lately with really living in the moment instead of letting time pass me by as I wait for some amazing thing that will make me happy- being grateful is so important! Thanks for sharing this! xx

  4. Words I needed to read today. We lost our dog to cancer and I’m doing my best to stay above the pit of grief x found you on a twitter blog swap x

    1. Oh, I am so, so sorry to hear that. Such a heartbreaking situation. Yes, I believe in working to stay grateful, but there is also time for grief in order to get through the tough times. I so hope that you feel better soon and can smile at the wonderful memories you have. Sending hugs and thank you for taking the time to comment. x

  5. When I was leaving an abusive marriage, I heard the quote “it’s hard to see the picture when you are inside the frame” and I think that is the same with other things in our life, like gratitude. It is so much easier to help others see the big picture than to apply it in our own lives.
    So let’s all do our best to be kind to ourselves and to be grateful instead of resentful.

    1. Absolutely. I always wonder why I have forgotten to look for the positive during these lulls, but then when I remember it sets me back on the right track. Thanks for the comment Becca.

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