So, we all have flaws right? Well, last week, the lovely Joan Senio from ‘My best friend Adeline’ nominated me to take part in the Flawesome Award. As I read the tweet I was intrigued by what this even was! I hadn’t heard of it before so hopped on over to her post to understand more. You can read Joan’s post here, however, I shall explain.
What is The Flawesome Award:
The Flawesome Award was created by Sophia at Sophia Ismaa Writes and is all about celebrating our faults. ‘Why might we want to do that?’ you may ask.
As some of you may know, I have a background in HR and what go hands in hand with HR? Recruitment. And what goes hand in hand with recruitment? That interview question we all know and, ahem, love…
‘What are your strengths and weaknesses?’
Across the board, advice on answering this question is to offer a weakness that can also be considered a strength. If viewed from an alternative perspective, most supposed weakness will have some kind of positive element to them. It is all about changing the way we look at it.
In Sophia’s words “It’s time to celebrate the flaws that make you awesome. How many times do we see an award that celebrates all things bright and shiny and sunny in a person? How often do we forget that our weaknesses can be a strength? Our flaws make us human, our flaws tell us more about who we are, and in turn we turn those flaws into awesome strengths. In short, our flaws make us #flawesome.”
This award is right up my street as I am sure it will be for many of you. As a reflective person who has a tendency to be too hard on herself, I have to work at ensuring I see the positive in a situation. I have been practising this recently and can happily report that doing so can become a habit. If this is new to you then this is a great starting point to kick start that positive mental attitude.
Just before we dive in, the award has some rules to follow.
Link back to the creator – you can view Sophia’s blog here: Sophia Ismaa Writes
Display the award
List 3 flaws and turn them into strengths
Tag 10 other people
So here are my three ways that I am #flawesome
Number 1: Reacting to situations
I always consider myself to be slow at reacting to situations. Remember that saying ‘hindsight is a wonderful thing’? and how we can often wish we had been quicker off the mark when things happen? My mind automatically sees this slow response as a negative. I have also often assumed it was due to a lack of confidence. But is it?
In my last job, my manager always praised the way I operated in certain situations. He explained that I would sit, take in all of the information and then use it to form a balanced view in order to provide answers or seek solutions.
In my younger years, I was a little more reactive. But over time I have learned from my reactions, analysed the things I have done and said, and considered how I felt after. I learned that I often misunderstood things on face value and that my reactions could cause awkwardness and unnecessary confusion. So I learned to take a step back and ask more questions for clarity before taking action.
I have accepted the way I am and the way I operate and conclude that it has contributed to the person that I am today. I rarely make rash decisions which means I make fewer choices that I might regret. It has helped me learn more about myself and others, and although it risks feeling that I haven’t dealt with a situation, it means I often de-escalate it rather stoking the fire by having my say.
It is, of course, a balance. I’m not saying that we should never have our say or stick up for ourselves, but it does mean that this can take place in a more controlled way which, often, is then less driven by emotion.
Number 2: Over-thinking
Have you ever had someone tell you that you are over-thinking something? I find that so incredibly frustrating. But I am told it often. I just like to analyse.
I accept that I over-think things but I also see it as being prepared. Am I alone in this? Tieing in with my first point about being slow to react in situations, I hate to be caught off guard.
Hence, I analyse and try to look at situations from different perspectives. There are times when I have to stop myself. Depending on what I am thinking about, I have learnt that this can affect how I feel. I now know that with certain issues, I cannot indulge myself in the analytical aspect because of the impact this can have.
However, this has also enabled me to consider different perspectives and form more rounded views of situations by placing myself in the shoes of others. This, again, is something that becomes a habit and I have often been praised for my (seemingly!) natural ability to do so.
Number 3: Over-sharing
Over-sharing and being too honest about myself is something I wish I could rein in at times. So often, I have found myself in situations where I wonder why I decided to say something.
Now, I have to say, I am a good secret keeper when I need to be, I just rarely seem to be able to keep my own.
Again, as with everything it is all about balance. I like that I am honest, open and relatable but, at the same time, I wish I would just stop talking sometimes. Sharing how I feel about things can often lead me to describe things in a way that I wish I had relayed differently. I often wish I had used more appropriate words to properly convey how I am feeling. Perhaps that is why enjoy writing as it gives time to reflect over what I am saying in order to shape it to a point where I am happy with it before hitting publish.
Of course, sharing can release tensions and enable us to move on from the things that are troubling us. I also think it helps me to be a better listener as I understand the desire to talk and discuss.
And so those are the things that I consider my biggest flaws. Well, they are the things I reflect on most regularly and attempt to manage as part of my day-to-day. However, in the spirit of this post, they are also the things that make me #flawesome.
This exercise has challenged me to consider the things that I may not be entirely happy with myself about but also leads into the practice of finding that positive spin.
I would love to read this post from the following fellow bloggers:
Alex: Lemonz and Tea: http://www.lemonzandtea.info/
Toni: This Mama https://thismama.co.uk/
Maud: My Passion Projects https://mypassionprojects.com/
Christy: Cookies & Cursewords https://cookiesandcursewords.com/
Charlene: Charlene McElhinny https://charlenemcelhinney.co.uk/
Peggy: Reducing the Overload http://reducingoverload.com/
Caylene: Luvlifewithlee http://lovinglifewithlee.com/
Rachel: thedailyrach https://www.thedailyrach.com/
Anne: Forever The Wanderer http://www.foreverthewanderer.ie/
Sarah: Insecure Housewife https://insecurehousewife.com/
Just a final note to say that there is no pressure to take part in this award. It is just for fun and can be left if life is